“Refusing to forgive is like swallowing rat poison and hoping that the rat will die.”
– Anne Lamott
These can be old romantic relationships which went wrong; business relationships with business partners which didn’t work out; relationships turned sour with former bosses, employees or team members; social relationships which didn’t fulfil their promise; or even relationships with our family, our friends, ourselves.
When we hold on to past relationships of any form, we can find that we are not able to focus on current relationships (or even to form new relationships at all), all of which harms your career, your health, your future.
How would you like to be able to –
- Easily and completely cut ties to old relationships which no longer serve you?
- Reconnect with people in new, empowering ways, free from old baggage?
- Move powerfully forward in your life, free from the past, ready for the future?
All so that you can propel yourself forward in life.
Because sometimes you need to forgive and heal your past, to allow for your future to blossom.
Why Are Grudges Bad?
When you’re hurt by anyone, it doesn’t matter whether you liked them or not, whether you trusted them or not; when you are hurt or betrayed or let down by them, you might become angry, sad or confused. Dwelling on these events and feelings starts to fill you with resentment, unresolved anger, and allows hostility and even thoughts of vengeance to take hold.
And when you then let these negative feelings to overwhelm and bloat out any positive emotions and feelings, you can (and often will) end up drowning in your own bitterness.
All of which harms you significantly; and, to make things worse from your perspective, all of which has absolutely zero impact on the object of your bitterness – they are totally unaware and unaffected, while you allow all this negativity to eat away at you and hold you back.
What is forgiveness?
Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, more positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimise or justify the wrong. IT doesn’t mean forgetting what happened. You can remember and still forgive. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. It’s all about letting go of the past, of that which you can not change, and being able to move on to focus on the present feed from the baggage of the past.
Going through Forward Through Forgiveness feels like a heavy weight is being lifted off your shoulders.
Isn’t it time for you to free yourself from the shackles of the past?
It’s time for you to move Forward Through Forgiveness!